On December 17, 1997, when our son Adam told us he was gay, our
world was turned upside down. We were absolutely devastated. We
desperately needed someone to comfort us, to assure us that our
son, our family would be okay. But we were too embarrassed and scared
to admit this secret to anyone, to reach out for comfort.
We tried several counselors. All of which were understanding, but
did not give us the answer we wanted. We really wanted to hear them
say, "Mr. and Mrs. Ellis, your son is not gay, he is just confused
and we will be able to help him." We did not get that answer,
so we moved on.
In the middle of my restless nights, I would get on the Internet
to find anything that would give me peace. I found nothing. We don't
want you to feel as alone, hopeless and desperate as we did. We
are committed to helping you through this. We know you are searching
for comfort, answers, and a way to make sense of this.
The only thing certain in my life was I knew I did not want to
lose my child. I would have to find a way to change him or to accept
him. I did not know how to start doing either one. I felt trapped
in the middle of my love for Adam and the religion that had been
so much a part of my family.
The darkness that is covering your life will go away. We can tell
you that from experience. The good news is that you can and will
come through this a better, stronger and more loving person to the
World around you and all God's children. You and your child will
be okay, but you must work to understand the truth in your heart.
So what should you do if your child is gay? You canŐt turn your
back on them. You love them too much for that. But how can you accept
something about them that your church, your family, your friends
and possibly even yourself finds unbearable, immoral or indecent?
If we are successful with this website, you will find the answer
to this challenging question. It is our prayer that our efforts
will keep you from losing your child.