(-- "Should I Accept My Child's Orientation?"...
If the story were to be exchanged with a gay man, would Jesus
have responded differently? Would He have said, "You have my blessing
in stoning this man to death?" I don't think so. I believe Jesus
would have said to the gay person, "Has no one condemned you?
Neither do I condemn you."
The scripture quoted about homosexuality in Leviticus is 18:22
which states, "You shall not lie with a male as with a woman;
it is an abomination." When Patti and I read that, nothing could
have been more definitive. The Bible stated that homosexuality
is wrong. We faced a major dilemma. How could we reconcile our
spiritual beliefs with the love of our son if the source of our
beliefs condemned homosexuality?
Fortunately, our anguish was lessened the more we studied the
Bible. As it turned out, Jesus never said anything about homosexuality.
In fact, Jesus often violated the prohibitions in Leviticus because
they ran counter to the Christ consciousness He wished us to adopt.
Jesus violated the commandment in Leviticus to stone the woman
to death. Would He have violated the commandment in Leviticus
against homosexual acts? I cannot pretend to know the answer but
I'd like to share what Patti and I concluded.
Leviticus refers to homosexual acts as an "abomination". But
it also refers to eating pork as an "abomination". (Leviticus
11:7) It also refers to eating lobster and shrimp (Leviticus
11:10) as an "abomination".
And that's not all. Leviticus also called sewing a field with
two different seeds an abomination as well as wearing cloth from
two kinds of fibers. (Leviticus 19:19)
So are the millions of people who eat at Red Lobster committing
an abomination? The majority of the shirts America wears are made
with more than one fiber. Does that mean we're all committing
an abomination? Am I committing an abomination when I order a
shrimp cocktail as an appetizer?
Is Adam committing an abomination by loving another man?
Ultimately, Patti and I decided the answer was "no" on all counts.
The Christ conscience is about love, understanding, and acceptance,
not abominations, condemnation, and punishment.
Jesus said it best in John 8:15, immediately after the encounter
with the church elders and the adulterous woman, "You judge by
human standards; I judge no one." Just when we thought we had
scriptural justification to condemn another, Jesus reminds us
that we all have fallen short of God's call to love one another.
For He instructed us not to worry about the speck in our brother's
eye until we had removed the log in our own eye.
Whether I believe homosexuality, or anything else for that matter,
is right or wrong does not change the fact that to love another
as myself requires my love and acceptance, not my condemnation.
Shaking my finger at someone has never helped in changing him
or her. If anything, my perception of their guilt only kept them
stuck in it. If I treated a person with compassion and forgiveness,
it was much more likely to elicit a healed response.
Why does homosexuality exist? I do not pretend to know the answer.
My personal belief is that people are born gay or lesbian. It
is not important that you agree with me. But I think you can agree
on the following statement: God knows and loves you completely.
God is not waiting for you to get your act together before He
can forgive and love you.
Are you going to require more of your child than God requires
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