What is God's Plan? What is God's Plan?
NAV Are these Questions Familiar? NAV
NAV Did Your Child Come Out to You? - Parents are never prepared to accept the news that their children are gay. I will never forget that Friday night in December of 1997. NAV
NAV Is My Child Gay or Confused? - When Adam told us he was gay, we thought, "This can't be true, he's just confused". NAV
  Should I Accept My Child's Orientation? - For Patti and I, our first reaction was absolutely not. He is only 16 years old. What does he know about sexual relations? NAV
  Am I Ashamed of My Child or of Myself? - When Adam came out to us, shame was a big word in our lives. I was afraid that people would overlook Adam's wonderful qualities and focus on just one aspect of him ---- his sexual orientation. NAV
  Did My Parents Make Me Gay? - Yes, absolutely, my parents made me gay. They had sex, my mom got pregnant, and bam!...I popped out of the womb - brown hair, brown eyes, and gay! NAV
  Is Homosexuality a Sin? - When it comes to the subject of homosexuality, our religious institutions remind me of the Civil Rights Movement of the 60's. NAV
  Who Can I Talk to About This? - Take comfort, you are only lost for a little while. There is a light at the end of this long, lonely path. NAV
  Why Would My Child Choose to be Gay? - You have just asked an important question. Ironically, once you have exhausted all of the obvious possibilities, you will probably come to understand the absurdity of the question itself. NAV
Other Points of Interest
  Our Son's Story - Adam was always a bright and happy child. He was also quite stubborn. As his father, I always found that frustrating in one respect, but I also admired it.  
  Hope... How Our Family has Progressed - After learning that Adam was gay, Patti and I were devastated. Our response was typical. We prayed for a miracle.  


Patti EllisHow does being gay fit in God's plan? This is the hardest question to discuss. The answer will depend on whom you are talking to. In my church, which was Methodist, there was not much conversation one way or the other of this subject. However, the evangelist on television and in the media made it quite plain their opinion of how God felt about homosexuality. Their message was not a loving or healing one.

Before Adam came out to us, I didn't think a lot about homosexuality. If someone had asked my opinion, I would have said that I did not believe that God would turn His love from anyone - ever. I also would have said that I did not believe anyone would choose this way of life, which society has scorned and deemed morally wrong.

But let me tell you, when it is your child that is gay, everything looks very different. Now it is personal. Now it is serious. This is my son. I had to examine everything I believed in and everything I had heard. I had to ask myself those painful questions that you are asking yourself. Who really knows what is God's truth? How can you be sure God loves your child?

Even though I wrestled with my thoughts and beliefs, I had a very strong sense of God's love for my family and myself. It was an inner sense. I could not explain why I felt that way other than it was just a part of my being. I knew that He loved us without conditions. I had to put aside the opinions of so many people and remember the teachings of Jesus. Jesus is God at work in the world. Jesus came to reach out to the outcast, to include them and show them God's love. Jesus came to widen the circle, not shrink it.