(-- Is My Child Gay or Confused?... CONTINUED --)

We finally found a psychologist, in a run-down old house, that we believed would agree with our medical assessment - confused but definitely not gay. Adam didn't like him but after just a few visits, it became clear to Patti and I this guy would, for the right amount of money, agree with any hypothesis we came up with.

That ended our search for a cure through psychiatry. We had heard of reparative therapy but I figured we could "fix" Adam the old fashion way - with a girl.

When he met Danielle, we felt if anyone could do it, she could. After a time, their love for each other became obvious. They spent a great deal of time with one another. We encouraged their relationship in every way we could. However, one night Adam came home late and finally confessed that his love for Danielle could not be stronger, but he just wasn't interested in her sexually.

As a father, that did it for me. I was crushed. If Danielle couldn't do it for him, he really was gay.

Through this experience, I was forced into a painful admission - when it comes to sexual orientation, you can rebuke and reproach it; you can revile and refute it; you can resist and repent of it; but you can't reverse it. It is there to stay.

St. Francis of Assisi's serenity prayer starts with the line "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

This is the crossroad at which you now stand.

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