(-- Is My Child Gay or Confused?... CONTINUED --)
We finally found a psychologist, in a run-down old house, that
we believed would agree with our medical assessment - confused
but definitely not gay. Adam didn't like him but after just a
few visits, it became clear to Patti and I this guy would, for
the right amount of money, agree with any hypothesis we came up
That ended our search for a cure through psychiatry. We had heard
of reparative therapy but I figured we could "fix" Adam the old
fashion way - with a girl.
When he met Danielle, we felt if anyone could do it, she could.
After a time, their love for each other became obvious. They spent
a great deal of time with one another. We encouraged their relationship
in every way we could. However, one night Adam came home late
and finally confessed that his love for Danielle could not be
stronger, but he just wasn't interested in her sexually.
As a father, that did it for me. I was crushed. If Danielle couldn't
do it for him, he really was gay.
Through this experience, I was forced into a painful admission
- when it comes to sexual orientation, you can rebuke and reproach
it; you can revile and refute it; you can resist and repent of
it; but you can't reverse it. It is there to stay.
St. Francis of Assisi's serenity prayer starts with the line
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the
This is the crossroad at which you now stand.
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