Should I Accept My Child's Orientation? Should I Accept My Child's Orientation?
NAV Are these Questions Familiar? NAV
NAV Did Your Child Come Out to You? - Parents are never prepared to accept the news that their children are gay. I will never forget that Friday night in December of 1997. NAV
NAV Is My Child Gay or Confused? - When Adam told us he was gay, we thought, "This can't be true, he's just confused". NAV
  Am I Ashamed of My Child or of Myself? - When Adam came out to us, shame was a big word in our lives. I was afraid that people would overlook Adam's wonderful qualities and focus on just one aspect of him ---- his sexual orientation. NAV
  Did My Parents Make Me Gay? - Yes, absolutely, my parents made me gay. They had sex, my mom got pregnant, and bam!...I popped out of the womb - brown hair, brown eyes, and gay! NAV
  Is Homosexuality a Sin? - When it comes to the subject of homosexuality, our religious institutions remind me of the Civil Rights Movement of the 60's. NAV
  Who Can I Talk to About This? - Take comfort, you are only lost for a little while. There is a light at the end of this long, lonely path. NAV
  What is God's Plan? - How does being gay fit in God's plan? This is the hardest question to discuss. The answer will depend on whom you are talking to. NAV
  Why Would My Child Choose to be Gay? - You have just asked an important question. Ironically, once you have exhausted all of the obvious possibilities, you will probably come to understand the absurdity of the question itself. NAV
Other Points of Interest
  Our Son's Story - Adam was always a bright and happy child. He was also quite stubborn. As his father, I always found that frustrating in one respect, but I also admired it.  
  Hope... How Our Family has Progressed - After learning that Adam was gay, Patti and I were devastated. Our response was typical. We prayed for a miracle.  


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It was heart breaking to hear story after story of the hurt caused by being rejected by the ones they depended on the most for understanding and acceptance. And we heard far too many stories of attempted suicide because of the shame and unworthiness they felt about who and what they were.

These were wonderful, loving men and women. Just like our son.

At every gay gathering that we went to, the thing that haunted me the most was the way Patti and I were stared at simply because we were there to support our son. Our being there with Adam often caused them more pain because they longed so desperately for their parents to do the same.

Slowly, the world is coming to realize that homosexuality and Christianity are not mutually exclusive. For when someone studies the life of Jesus, they come to understand that He came to invite all people to God's table. Not one person is ever excluded.

At this point, I feel it necessary to explain that I was raised in the South as a Christian. Because of that upbringing, my religious examples will only be relating to the life of Jesus. In no way do I wish to insult any person of another religion or try to proselyte. I only know my own religion. I wish I knew other spiritual teachings. I believe they would parallel these examples.

Jesus always sought the outcasts of his day and made them feel welcomed. And no one group represents the outcasts of today more than the gay community. The gospels are filled with stories and parables, told by Jesus, about God's love for those that are despised and hated by the ruling majority.