What is God's Plan? What is God's Plan?
NAV Are these Questions Familiar? NAV
NAV Did Your Child Come Out to You? - Parents are never prepared to accept the news that their children are gay. I will never forget that Friday night in December of 1997. NAV
NAV Is My Child Gay or Confused? - When Adam told us he was gay, we thought, "This can't be true, he's just confused". NAV
  Should I Accept My Child's Orientation? - For Patti and I, our first reaction was absolutely not. He is only 16 years old. What does he know about sexual relations? NAV
  Am I Ashamed of My Child or of Myself? - When Adam came out to us, shame was a big word in our lives. I was afraid that people would overlook Adam's wonderful qualities and focus on just one aspect of him ---- his sexual orientation. NAV
  Did My Parents Make Me Gay? - Yes, absolutely, my parents made me gay. They had sex, my mom got pregnant, and bam!...I popped out of the womb - brown hair, brown eyes, and gay! NAV
  Is Homosexuality a Sin? - When it comes to the subject of homosexuality, our religious institutions remind me of the Civil Rights Movement of the 60's. NAV
  Who Can I Talk to About This? - Take comfort, you are only lost for a little while. There is a light at the end of this long, lonely path. NAV
  Why Would My Child Choose to be Gay? - You have just asked an important question. Ironically, once you have exhausted all of the obvious possibilities, you will probably come to understand the absurdity of the question itself. NAV
Other Points of Interest
  Our Son's Story - Adam was always a bright and happy child. He was also quite stubborn. As his father, I always found that frustrating in one respect, but I also admired it.  
  Hope... How Our Family has Progressed - After learning that Adam was gay, Patti and I were devastated. Our response was typical. We prayed for a miracle.  


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That was the question I asked myself over and over. Is homosexuality part of God's plan? How can we be sure? We can't. But what we do know is that society has been wrong about God's plan in the past.

For instance, not too long ago black people were denied their civil rights. Our society perceived we had a "black problem" in this country, when it actually was a white problem -- racism. Today, we watch with horror old films of innocent black people being treated inhumanely. But how did we view it then? What was being said from the pulpits of our churches? Back then we did not view giving black people dignity and treating them equally as part of God's plan. Are we doing the same with gay people today? We've been wrong before. Could we be wrong again?

Here is another example: When a child was born left-handed, they were forced to change because it was considered wrong, not "normal". Their left hand was tied behind their back to force the change. Today we just see that as another human variation.

Like being left-handed then, homosexuality seems wrong to us now because of what we have been taught as "normal". Why would God make something wrong? Jeff and I had to examine that, and be open to the truth. After you have met other gay and lesbian people, you will find it easier to understand the truth. You will meet wonderful, loving and spiritual people that love God.

There are many examples over time where society thought it knew God's plan better than God Himself. Are we repeating the same mistake when we either commit or allow discrimination against our gay and lesbian children? Are we repeating the same mistake when we don't welcome our gay and lesbian friends and neighbors to our worship services? Are we too afraid to know and love them, as Jesus would have done? Are we sure we know God's plan?

For me, I will err on the side of loving my son. I will err on the side of accepting my son as God made him.