After learning that Adam was gay, Patti and I were devastated.
Our response was typical. We prayed for a miracle. We pleaded,
"God, please remove this burden from our son and our whole family.
If Adam is truly gay, then please change him. We will do anything
to bring about this change."
Faithful to His word, God answered our prayer. Things changed.
It took over a year for the changes to take place. However, the
changes that took place were not in Adam but in us. God, in answering
our prayer, opened our eyes to the fact that He had created Adam
gay for His own reasons and we, in our arrogance, viewed God's
creation as flawed.
The change God wanted in Patti and I was for us to see gays and
lesbians, as they really were; not as cloven-hoofed monsters that
would roast small children on a spit. Unfortunately, we had labeled
all homosexuals as having the same unsavory characteristics and
not having much worldly value. We had to summon the courage to
stand and face our prejudices in the eye. We had to go directly
into the "belly of the beast" and see what we had to fear. After
all, we had the best motivation of all - avoiding the loss of
When we finally met other gays and lesbians, we were surprised
to find such warm and engaging people. We found others that wanted
to help us with our struggle. At our PFLAG meetings, we were introduced
to an assistant minister that was so compassionate toward us.
She also related how her own denomination struggled with her sexual
I remember seeing two extremely attractive women at one of the
meetings and wondered what they were doing there. They were later
introduced as being each other's partner.
We also met several gay couples that have been in committed relationships
for many years yet their families would never allow the partner