Our Sons Story Our Sons Story
NAV Are these Questions Familiar? NAV
NAV Did Your Child Come Out to You? - Parents are never prepared to accept the news that their children are gay. I will never forget that Friday night in December of 1997. NAV
NAV Is My Child Gay or Confused? - When Adam told us he was gay, we thought, "This can't be true, he's just confused". NAV
  Should I Accept My Child's Orientation? - For Patti and I, our first reaction was absolutely not. He is only 16 years old. What does he know about sexual relations? NAV
  Am I Ashamed of My Child or of Myself? - When Adam came out to us, shame was a big word in our lives. I was afraid that people would overlook Adam's wonderful qualities and focus on just one aspect of him ---- his sexual orientation. NAV
  Did My Parents Make Me Gay? - Yes, absolutely, my parents made me gay. They had sex, my mom got pregnant, and bam!...I popped out of the womb - brown hair, brown eyes, and gay! NAV
  Is Homosexuality a Sin? - When it comes to the subject of homosexuality, our religious institutions remind me of the Civil Rights Movement of the 60's. NAV
  Who Can I Talk to About This? - Take comfort, you are only lost for a little while. There is a light at the end of this long, lonely path. NAV
  What is God's Plan? - How does being gay fit in God's plan? This is the hardest question to discuss. The answer will depend on whom you are talking to. NAV
  Why Would My Child Choose to be Gay? - You have just asked an important question. Ironically, once you have exhausted all of the obvious possibilities, you will probably come to understand the absurdity of the question itself. NAV
Other Points of Interest
  Hope... How Our Family has Progressed - After learning that Adam was gay, Patti and I were devastated. Our response was typical. We prayed for a miracle.  


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"What is it about the late night hours that allows the soul to speak openly and maybe even say things that do not normally come out so easily? Friday night was a really good night all together. Jeff and I went to the bookstore and stocked up for a while. I found a book called Straight Parents/Gay Children. It fell off the shelf for me. Literally! It is a wonderful book. We came back and started reading it to each other. In it we found words that spoke our hearts. When you have a situation like having a gay child, there are very few ways to express how you feel, so when you read a book that says how you feel and how you have felt, you just can't get enough. Sometimes we had to just stop reading and cry."

Jeff: During our life, we have been blessed with knowing many wonderful, spiritual people. One such person was "Ma" Barton. She was an elderly woman, a minister's wife that taught our Sunday school class. She loved children and made it her ministry to teach young adults on the importance of family and being good parents.

She taught us that once your children reach the teenage years and beyond, they tend to conceal many of their true feelings about how they are dealing with life. She went on to say that if we would talk to them late in the evening, when they came home from an evening out, something magical would seem to happen to them.

If you were there and available for them, the impenetrable wall to their feelings would fall. They would tell you more about themselves than at any other time of the day.

Ma Barton was right. We have found more family togetherness in the wee hours of the night than we can tell.